Dr. Melissa: Sex is Sacred
Hat tip Conservative Grapevine, Dr. Melissa Clouthier is an insightful blogger that I am enjoying more and more everything I read her posts. Her latest post on the scaredness of sex is one that I agree with fully, and I just wish that more of my female friends would consider what she is saying:
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The change occurred back when birth control became ubiquitous. Women could have sex as easily and without consequence as men and so women took on the behavior of the most hound-doggish men. It has not been good for either men or women.
Oh, usually, when this topic comes up, the discussion turns toward STDs or unwanted pregnancies or abortion. And those are important discussions and a terrible side-effect of sexual promiscuity. But there is a more day-to-day effect of promiscuity: the devaluing of sex itself to the point that it’s purpose beyond reproduction is distorted beyond recognition.
Sex is not just to make babies. Sex is not just for physical pleasure. Sex is a sacred gift between two people.
Here’s an irony that I’ve noticed: the women who put out the most seem to like sex the least. You read that right. Because sex matters so little to them, they use sex as a tool to get a man to like them or they use sex to have physical touch or they use sex for attention. The point is, they use sex. And then, when there is no more use for sex, they stop giving it up. That’s right. They don’t like it or value it that much anyway. They give it to anyone and everyone. And, imagine their eventual husband’s shock when it stops being given. “But we had so much sex before we got married!” Uh huh. I have a newsflash. She didn’t like it then, either. She was using sex to use you. And, it worked.
No one values anything that comes cheap. Why do men and women give away the gift of their body and soul as if it is worth nothing?
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Go read the whole thing. Do it. All three of you who read this.
I don’t really know what else to write about her post. As a guy with more female friends than guy friends, I get to hear a lot of stuff that most guys never hear. The most frustrating thing is when I see my women friends in all their unhappiness try to convince themselves that what they are doing that makes them unhappy (usually sexually/romantically related) is OK because of whatever excuse they give themselves. It’s even worse when they convince themselves that they are happy even though all they’re doing is surrounding themselves with distractions from their issues. Those issues always come back and bite them in the end, though…
